Thinking of starting your healing journey? I will go over what to expect when you embark on your healing journey and the lessons I have learnt. These lessons can also be a guide for you to know how far you have come in your healing process. If I have left anything out, feel free to let me now what your thoughts are.
1. Healing is not Linear
Healing is a rollercoaster of emotions. Some days you are fine, some days you are depressed, other days you feel better than you’ve ever felt and there are days were you are tearing up for no reason- could be joy could be pain or both.
The things you thought you forgot about seem to resurface out of nowhere and before you know it, you’re in the fetus position wailing uncontrollably. The crying will stop soon enough, eventually you will start to feel better.
2. Be authentic and Live your truth
As I progressed in my healing journey I started to go through a spiritual awakening. This spiritual awakening caused me to question the beliefs that I was raised with and the expectations of society. Basically, everything I was told was a lie.
You may go through a spiritual awakening once you start to build your own identity. You realise that other people’s opinions of you were mostly mere projections and you are now better acquainted with your true strengths and weaknesses.
3. The truth about who you are is already within
I spent a lot of time not being sure what I wanted to do with my life. When people spoke about goals or purpose, I had no idea what I wanted to do, it was never clear in my mind.
If you find yourself lost like I was, you just need more self awareness. And for me, that meant a lot of time alone and lots of therapy sessions, but it also means going back to who you were as a child and what you loved to do.
Our purpose and who we are is something we are born with, not something we have to go out to find.
4. Don’t take things personally
The fact that they can’t love you how you want to be loved has nothing to do with you and everything to do with their own internal struggle.
This realisation in my healing journey has caused me to forgive and have compassion for not just those who hurt me but also myself along with the past versions of myself that had no idea what she was doing.
5. No one is coming to the rescue
You are more in control, of your life than you think. Do not fall for the cinderella complex.
You can make the decision to change your life around by choosing not to complain or be the victim. Take your power back by grabbing life by the balls and get to work.
If you don’t like your job you can change it. Hate your life? You can choose to think better thoughts to get better results. You don’t like your self? Work on being a better version of yourself. Do you keep attracting the same people? You can decide to not ignore blatant red flags. Do you feel constantly used? You will need to set boundaries with everybody you meet starting with yourself.
You have power.
6. Gratitude counteracts negative thoughts
Gratitude counteracts negativity and creates more abundance in your life, which in turn gives us more reasons to be grateful, it works like a domino effect.
We can have bad days but there’s always something to be grateful for. Acknowledging the good in your life by counting your blessings will not only create more good in your life but will inevitably shift how you feel. Emotions can run the show if we don’t stop our negative thoughts from spiralling out of control.
“Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, your values become your destinyMAHATMA GANDI
7. We cause most of our own suffering
A lot of self sabotage and resistance to change occurs when exposed to new experiences, your old limiting beliefs and stories will pop up when you start leaving your comfort zone. You just have to be aware to nip it in the bud.
We cause most of our suffering with our thoughts and beliefs and I have finally begun to accept that so that I can get what I desire. You don’t have to listen to your negative thoughts, stories and beliefs that hold you back.
You are worthy of everything you’ve ever asked for.
8. Your life falls apart before it comes together
You try to go back to your old life but it doesn’t fit anymore. Your relationships, the job, your wardrobe just don’t make sense anymore and you’ve outgrown them
You life falls apart before it comes together. The people that you thought will be there till the end will eventually drift apart. As you heal you start feeling a sense of self acceptance as you break away from the negative trauma bonds and move on from the past.
Holding onto people you no longer align with will keep you stuck.
9. Everyone you meet will be your mirror
I realised that the people in your circle mirror back to you your own level of self love. This is why it’s okay to loose people, it’s a sign that you are healing and growing. Let things go if they no longer align with who you want to be.
The people you have in your life, though at the same vibrational level, reflect back to you what you were already feeling within yourself. Seeking validation from people outside of yourself who share the same wounds will only deepen the wound, perpetuating the cycle of self-loathing.
10. Always trust your gut
If there’s an important lesson I learnt in my healing journey, it is that you must always trust your gut. Always.
No, you’re not crazy. You’re not too sensitive. Your gut is literally sending you triggers that something is up and you have to listen in to that. It’s called the second brain for a reason.
I would have dodged several bullets if I had just listened to my intuition, but most importantly if you don’t trust yourself you can’t possibly trust anyone else.
These are the 10 things I learnt in my healing journey
- Healing is not linear
- Be authentic and live your truth
- The truth about who you are is already within
- Don’t take things personally
- No one is coming to the rescue
- Gratitude counteracts negative thoughts
- We cause most of our own suffering
- Your life falls apart before it comes together
- Everyone you meet will be your mirror
- Always trust your gut